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Is STAND FOR LOVE something I have to join?

Officially, no. It’s more of an idea than an organization.

Are the any dues or fees or anything that I have to buy to participate?


Do I have to give you my contact info?

No. But if you want to comment/share ideas on the website, you can’t do so anonymously.

Is STAND FOR LOVE formally affiliated with any religion, church, or civic group?

No, but we definitely affirm a Christian perspective on love and romance. We also affirm that we’re not the end-all experts and don’t have a corner on this market and, obviously, we know that the struggles found in Christian relationships and marriages are often the same as those of any other group.

At the end of the day, we are interested in learning to love and care for one another in ways that bring about healing and wholeness… and, hopefully, not perpetuate or add to the massive damage and brokenness that is so pervasive in the romantic landscape in America today.

What’s the big deal about Valentine’s Day?

It’s a symbol. And symbols matter. And when “Fifty Shades of Grey” targeted that date to release theatrically and position itself as a mainstream romantic drama… that matters.

Re: “Fifty Shades of Grey.” Aren’t you overreacting, just a little? A lot?

We don’t think so. We believe that what a culture lifts up… and spends untold millions of dollars to create and market and consume says something about a culture. Is “Fifty Shades” really what we all aspire to? For ourselves? Our daughters and sons?

Who are you, the bedroom police? What’s wrong with a little fantasy?

First, no, we are in no way trying position ourselves as experts as to what married couples should or shouldn’t do behind closed doors.

This is about entertainment, or what we hold up as entertainment… especially in a world in which everything is available everywhere, all the time, on countless devices. For all eyes.

As for fantasy…

Again, without getting into bedroom specifics or any particular book or movie… if the question is whether or not all fantasy is completely harmless simply because it is fantasy, well, no, we don’t agree.

Clearly, most actions begin in the mind and since to any thinking person it is clear that some actions are indeed “evil” (or whatever word you are comfortable with)… and that being the case, it seems only wise and prudent that it is perhaps best to not let our minds wander too long in certain areas.

What if I have more questions not addressed here?

Please feel free to send us an email:


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“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men (and women) do nothing.”

- Edmund Burke

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- Talk about the release of “Fifty Shades of Grey” (and its sequels) with your family, friends, colleagues and/or small group. Discuss what that means for our culture (especially young people) and explore ideas of creating positive counter-cultural alternatives.

- Engage in online/social media discussions regarding “Fifty Shades” (or similar books/films) and challenge the status quo. Remember to be respectful and loving! Where appropriate, be sure and invite others to STAND FOR LOVE on Valentine’s Day.

- Write an editorial for your local or student newspaper/magazine. Or, in some cases, even national publications will print such op-ed pieces. If you’re so inclined… go for it!

- If you are a church, share what you are doing to STAND FOR LOVE in your own congregation/communities with other churches in your denomination or network.

- Call into radio programs debating entertainment, film, culture, and/or “Fifty Shades” (or similar books/films) and offer positive and life-affirming perspective and options in both media and life.

- Share our web address www.standforlove.com with friends and associates via email, social media, etc. And share your ideas with us on the website!

- Most of all, live a life that “stands for love” and be a living example that stands in stark contrast to any and all destructive romantic patterns. This is easier for some than others, obviously… and not all of us have been blessed with good examples and/or long-lasting and healthy relationships.

But, no matter where you come from or what you’ve done in the past… no matter your brokenness or struggles or guilt… it’s never too late to make a change and get back in the fight!

And, if you are indeed one of the fortunate ones that has known great love and experienced the joy that so many are still longing for… we need your wisdom and evidence that it’s possible! Join us!

It matters…

- And don’t forget to pray! Please don’t forget to pray… the battle is real…

Grace and peace to all…

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sfl - candy Again, the ultimate goal of this website and the whole idea behind STAND FOR LOVE is not to tell you what to do, exactly, when it comes to Valentine’s Day… our hope and prayer is to, God willing, inspire you dream up a way to honor love and motivate you to bring that dream to life.

If you believe in this idea and want to throw in and/or think this is an idea that might spark something in someone you know, we’ve offered some ideas to spread the word as well as some art to create your own social media or flyers or whatever! Strike _ Flickr - Photo Sharing!

And finally, we tried to answer any remaining questions you might have. If we’ve missed anything or if you see a way that we could improve upon what we’re doing here, please send us an email!